The Key To Wellness

I haven't written anything here for quite a while and for this blog to be about Wisdom ,Wellness and Wealth
with the current debate over the health care plan I feel I should say a word about wellness. I believe
that everything begins in the mind and that in many ways the mind is master of the body. Though it is good sometimes
for the mind to listen to the body in health matters, ultimately it is the power of the mind that will prevail. I have
seen people smile from the bed of a hospital while others frown on the elevators. Many people with illness and ailments
have far better attitudes about life than some others who do not suffer physically. I feel the health care plan will be a good thing for all once put into place. We never no when we may be in a position as many are to not be able to afford health care. What I want to say here is no matter what health care is provided the ultimate responsibility for well being is with the individual. The doctors can diagnose and the can see how the body is functioning,but the care of the body is the responsibility of the individual person. I believe very strongly in preventive health care which means as much as possible taking care of ones self be proper diet and exercise. Eating right and living right is the key to optimum health. I remember years ago when I was a Cooper Clinic Certified Aerobic trainer I ask myself the question why do all of the walking and running. It seemed at the time it was all just a way to try to control life, which I feel in many ways should be lived naturally and let come what may. After I had ask myself this question with no answer given, I ask several other people I knew who were much more active than myself why they did all the running and walking. Many said they were trying to stay young, others said they wanted to live longer. Out of all the answers I was given the one the made any sense to me was that it added more quality to the life. You see that is what I have found to be the key to wellness. No matter what your physical health you can always opt for the highest quality of life you can afford and surprisingly most the of the quality in life can be found in the choices we make and can cost us nothing. It doesn't cost anything to take a walk and it cost the same to eat fresh vegetables and sometimes less than it does to order fast food. The difference is in the way you feel which makes all the difference in the world. How do you feel right now is there something you can do about it? I bet if you think about it
there is a least one thing you could do to make yourself feel better,there usually always is.



The Time Is Flying

September 3, 2009 in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Time can actually take wings and fly. It seems like it was a month ago that I posted do you remember September by Earth Wind and Fire. All we have to benchmark our time is our memory and it can be tricky slipping in and out while exchanging one place or event for the other. Recently I have noticed that places and landmarks I have known for years serve as page marks for memory. When I notice something I have known a loved for years is no longer in it’s place it lets me know that time is marching on.

Two Trees

Tree One

We had heavy rains all day and then that night a deep freeze. The next day was a beautiful sight all of the trees covered with shimmering ice sickles a winter wonderland. There was no snow on the ground just ice on the trees. It was one those post card kind of days, cold and beautiful with a certain type of solitude that only a day like this could bring. I was in my den when I heard SNAP!!!!! POP!!!! and then BOOM!!!!!. I stop for a moment and wondered what it was . The sound was at the front of the house, but I had no idea what it was. So with a coffee cup in hand I headed for the front door. As I passed my front window I could see something was blocking my view, I had no idea what I was seeing. When I opened my front door I saw one of four ciders that had been in my yard for over thirty years laying across half of my yard. As I looked at the tree in the yard I remember thinking about the fact it could not be replaced. I also noticed as I looked at the tree in the yard how much different my yard would look without it. And like so many other things in life and in my memory the tree could never be changed or brought back.

Tree Two

It was a lovely spring morning the sun was shining through the window to my east and it was the beginning of what looked like another beautiful spring day. Later that afternoon as I was sitting in my den (yes I spend a lot of time in my den) I heard thunder the a crackling of lighting and a gust of wind. From all indications the signs pointed toward a tornado. The wind blew so loudly that you could hear it whistling outside the window. After the storm died down I decided to go out and see the damage that it had left behind. As I opened the door I could see that the same side of the yard the cider had fallen on was again occupied by another tree. This time the tree was a oak that was older than than the cider.

When time passes it always seems to leave us memories of things no longer there.We can page mark our lives by things that are no longer there. Just like last September,it has been replaced by this September. Do You remember?


Getting Over Your First love

If you have been following my blog you already know that I break every blogging rule in the book. I don’t post often and many times I don’t follow the rule of staying with the same theme. Really my blog follows the pattern of my mind which varies from time to time. Which brings me to the subject of this blog:

”first Love”.

When I started thinking about the thought of first love, I thought about the first girl I fell in love with. I know that this should be easy to remember but it’s not.You see when I tried to remember I had to go through my mind and evaluate the different girls I knew growing up. I had to decide if I was going to include girls who I never told I loved them.Or was I going to only deal with girls with whom I had some type of relationship.What would be the criteria for girls I considered my first love. The point I am making here is that even what seems to be an obvious question with an obvious answer is not so obvious when you put it under the microscope. I hear many of you saying in your mind, your heart should have given you the answer in a matter of seconds. The truth is the heart is what made this seemingly simple task hard in the first place.

The first girl I thought about was the first girl I kissed. But because I kissed her didn’t mean she was the first girl I loved. Then I thought about the girl that I thought about the most. But after doing this I realized that many of the girls I thought about a lot had nothing to do with love but was mostly lust.So after a minute or two I narrowed it down to first girl friends and then to the girlfriend who had impacted me the most.

That is how I discovered my first love.I didn’t I know this was my first love until I really thought about it. How did I know she was my first love.I got sick after we broke up ( I really got psychically sick ) when we broke up. I loved this girl so much that I got sick when she broke up with me. Can you believe that?

I probably shouldn’t have told you that story, but I had to do it in order to make a point. We don’t always love things for the right reason. I need to say that again ( we don’t always love things or people for the right reason. You see my first love was all about seeking self approval. I was just happy that someone I approached had accepted my advances. I thought because this girl wanted to spend time with me she felt the same way about me. But to discover something totally different hurt and it was through this pain that learned a valuable lesson.

Be careful who you love and always love yourself more. Some of you may not belieive this statement, but no one loves some one who does not love them self. You see if you don’t love yourself you don’t have any love to give to anyone else.

“This is a important fact if you don’t love yourself when someone like my first love takes there love away you don’t have anything left. But when you love yourself you have enough love to share with everyone you come in contact with.”

This will sound strange at first and will require careful thought (Love Loves Love). What I mean by this is love brings more love. When you love yourself you attract people who love you, but when you don’t love yourself you make it hard for others to love you. My first love thought me valuable lesson that I still live by today, don’t give your love away, keep a little for yourself. People love people who love themselves and have enough love left over to share.

I saw my first love some years later at a concert alone, I was attending solo as well. In passing she stopped dead in her tracks when she saw me. Her eyes fixed on me, no longer that skinny confused kid who’s heart she had broken many years ago. She had a loneliness in her eyes , she asked how I was doing I answered very well. We exchanged numbers and had a little conversation. I actually felt good about seeing her as I walked away, and I have laughed many time since remembering the shocked look on her face when she saw me, almost as if she was embarrassed for breaking up with me.

Life for me has become like that first love. I thank life for every lesson good and bad it has thought me. I am thankful for every time life has broke it off with me and walked out on me, it has left me a stronger person and made me love myself a little more. And just like my first love I leave much of it in the past so that I can enjoy today and move on.